90 Days to Courageous Leadership


Have You Ever Gotten Really Good Bad News?

2014 was (to put it mildly) a very difficult year. Then, in January 2015, I got a call sharing some bad news. It struck me how relieved I was to hear this bad news. When I thought about why I felt so relieved I realized that, compared to the news I actually expected and was […]

Do You Make Good Decisions?

The National Speakers Association decided to change their name and brand to PLATFORM recently. The decision stirred up so much anger that the President of the Association decided to put the change (two years in the making) on hold. Why so much anger, you ask? Three reasons: a perception by the membership that is was […]

How Effective Are You At Handling Change?

“Change is difficult” may be one of the biggest lies people buy. If you won 100 million dollars in the lottery, your life would probably change, and you probably wouldn’t find that change difficult. Change is only difficult when you believe that the change is going to produce negative or undesirable results. “People are afraid […]

How Complex Does It Really Need To Be?

Many of you know that I took a 5400 mile ride on my Harley in August from Florida to South Dakota through Moab,Utah the Colorado Rockies then home. I was gone for 14 days. For two weeks I had my bike, a bag strapped to my sissy bar and a back pack. Had the time […]

Surviving the Storms of Life

I am stunned, as I know you are, at the utter devastation and chaos that is being experienced in Mississippi and Louisiana as I write this. I urge you to find a way to help. The Red Cross, as an example, is desperate for donations. As I was watching CNN last night I was amazed […]

Are You Intellectually Benevolent?

Benevolence has to do with being generous, giving and kind. This month, I am wondering if you are intellectually generous, giving and kind, or do you find yourself far too quick to judge or evaluate someone or something else simply because they are different than you or what you believe? I am on Facebook personally, […]

Is it REALLY Noisy or Is It Just Me?

When was the last time you stopped and noticed the noise around you? Just stop right now and listen. It’s not just the keys on the computer keyboards being used by people in the office, or the wind outside, or the truck driving by, it’s internal noise as well. We are bombarded with so much […]

Are You Ready?

This month I am going to ask you to look at something that isn’t that pleasant to look at. Loss. A week ago, my biological father died unexpectedly. On some levels we were ready; on others, nobody was ready. I am challenging you to ask yourself if you are ready for that kind of loss. […]

Why Are Shoulds So Bad for You?

A should is simply an expectation imposed (emphasis on imposed) by us on another person or circumstance. The worst kind of shoulds are those imposed on ourselves. The reason they are so bad for you and your family and work is that they are usually irrational or worse. Now before you go getting all uptight […]

Do You Think?

With all of the swirling information and competing priorities being thrown at us every day, not only from the media but from friends and family and all manner of sources of opinion, it is critical that WE think. It occurred to me last week on a flight from San Francisco, that too often in life […]

Do you Consider Unintended Consequences?

There are not many people in the world who wake up in the morning and think to themselves, “I’d like to make a really stupid decision today.” But have you ever made a decision and found that certain things happened as a result of that decision that you wish wouldn’t have happened? Ever said something […]

Dealing With Challenging People

All of us have people in our lives who are challenging. Most of these people don’t think THEY are the ones that are challenging. You know the type. They are always making excuses for their difficult behaviors. They say things like, “This is just the way I am,” or “This is just my personality,” etc. […]

How Sound Is Your Judgment?

I was being interviewed this morning on a radio show, and was asked an interesting question. The question was, ‘how does a person know when they are exercising good judgment?’ It was interesting because the question wasn’t how do you develop good judgment, but rather how do you know when you actually have it and […]

Creating Boundaries

One of the keys to driving performance in an organization or in your personal life is the ability to set appropriate boundaries. A boundary, for our purposes this month, is simply an expectation – how you expect a person to perform at work or how to treat you personally. Most challenges we face in life […]

Do You Deeply Value Ordinary Days?

Teri Benson is a dear friend of mine. I met her a while ago and have stayed in touch over the years. Teri is athletic, in amazing shape, and very health-conscious. She is full of life and energy and works to not let anything get her down for long. Last October, she had a stinging […]

How Transparent Are You?

The idea of transparency has been on my mind a lot lately. The concept is actually pretty simple to understand but exceptionally hard for some to apply in their personal and professional lives. Simply put, transparency is the extent to which you are candid and expect – even demand it – of others. The tolerance […]

Are New Year’s Resolutions Futile?

Let me save you some time. The answer is yes. Here’s why: if we choose to wait until the end of the year to make a promise to ourselves that is that important, may I suggest it just wasn’t ever THAT important? The list of ‘promises’ we make to ourselves and then – in most […]

Do You Need to Lose Weight?

The number one New Years resolution is about losing weight. I was on a cruise recently and made the mistake of having a toxicity evaluation. They measured my body fat, metabolic rate, lean body mass, etc. Why I would do that on a cruise is beyond me. But what I found interesting was the amount […]

Can You Be Still?

I saw a commercial over the holidays that had the line, “Sure, you are active, but why?” This month I want to encourage you to be still. If you are like most people, you are very busy. Think of all the times you have been asked how you are doing and you have answered, “Busy.” […]


For most of us the beginning of a new year brings with it many new and hopeful intentions. We intend to lose weight; we intend to stop smoking; we intend to get out of debt. As the year progresses, many of those intentions turn to hopes, which later turn to rationalizations. Herein lies the problem. […]